Why I Can't Say No

I've gotten some feedback on my first post to the blog. I was asked why, if the assignment is (as I put it) "a throbbing mass of stress in my head," don't I just say no. In order of pertinence, here are the reasons that I can't say no:

1. Job Security - If you read Monday's Blog, you'd know that my boss was recently let go. It was explained to me that his position had moved to Ireland and since he did not wish to relocate with his position, he was let go. I don't fully believe that's why he was let go; I think there were other factors. However, in light of the fact that my position is also moving to Dublin for the short term, I did not think it wise to turn it down. My wife gave up her career to be a stay-at-home Mom, something we both feel strongly about. As the only bread winner in the family now, I need to make sure that they are taken care of.

2. Opportunity - I truly like the project and believe in the project. It is an excellent opportunity to for me and my career.

3. Personal Experience - During the last six months on the project, I've met some wonderful people and seen some extraordinary places. I'd really like to share these experiences with my family. Who knows when we might get another chance?

Beth and I would like to adopt again. To remain active in the adoption pool, we need to maintain residency in Illinois. Thus, I'll be working in Dublin and they'll be living at home. They do get to visit a couple of times, though. I will get a few long weekends at home as well.

That's it in a nutshell - why I can't say no to the project and why they can't come with me full time. Too much is at stake for the security and well-being of my family.

Have you ever felt handcuffed by your job? Let's hear about it!